Introduction: Manuela Klerkx | Text: Hanne Hagenaars
Exhibition-maker and publicist Hanne Hagenaars, 63, has written a fascinating and touching book that combines a narrative about continuing life after the death of a loved one and art. It is not a sad or serious narrative about death (there is already so much written about that), but a testimony of what art can mean during the grieving process, or better yet, how art can shape sorrow, the feeling of ‘missing’. In fact, it is about everything that can arise after death in terms of love or the lack thereof. How do you go on living? The roundness of Loss (working title) is a beautiful travelogue about surviving a profound loss.
Hanne spoke with artists and wrote easily accessible, essay-like texts based on artworks. The book opens with the early death of her mother (Hanne was 18 at the time) and how she seemed to never have existed because there was no talk of her in their home. There were no photos in the house. So, what do you do then? This question made her curious about how artists experience and process grief and loss in their art. To find out, she spoke with them in their studios, wrote and emailed letters, and delved into all the topics that emerged in their work.
‘If you stop talking about someone, you lose your memories.
And if you don't live through your grief, it accumulates in your body and, in my experience,
you start processing it again in your 60s.’
De Volkskrant, 25 July 2023, in a conversation with Karolien Knols
In her book The roundness of loss (such a beautiful title), Hanne shares her encounters with around 30 artists. She learned that artists with a non-Western background are much more concerned with the unnameable, the spiritual, which made her – a non-believer – less doubtful about what exists beyond this earthly life. She also observed that with every creative process, whether you're an artist or not, you can bring the deceased closer. As a means of remembrance, she made miniature versions of her mother's clothing and then had them photographed (‘capturing’ is a more appropriate word in this context) by none other than Paul Kooiker. In addition to all the fantastic artworks in the book, memories of Hanne's mother also come to life through this approach.
‘When I ride my bike through the city and I see certain flowers, I feel my sister Aldi, I feel the loss. I will carry that loss with me for the rest of my life. And that's okay. I keep them with me, even though they're gone.’
NRC, 16 August 2023, in a conversation with Lucette ter Borg
Meanwhile, Hanne has started on a new book entitled The roundness of loss, based on research into spirituality. Now it’s Hanne’s turn.
The roundness of loss. Living as a round shape.
I believe in spiritual and cosmic energy. Energy comes to you in a way you cannot explain. We are empty transmitters that receive cosmic energy. So I'm spiritual. A sense of humour is so important. The Dalai Lama always starts with a joke.' I read this in an interview with Marina Abramovic. While writing my book Missing as a round shape, it became very clear that the loss of a loved one is easier to bear when you feel that you are part of a larger whole, and when you believe in 'something'. The question of how to get closer to that intrigues me. What does life look like at that point? I often hear people say ‘I believe in nothing’, but nothing is quite meagre and frightening. Is there then an 'everything'? I look for examples of a spiritual life: contact with ancestors, Mother Earth, rituals. Not the church as an institution, but a personal belief in God can be good for a person.